May 14, 2008...6:17 pm
When I watch you, wanna do you right where you’re standing
People tend to underestimate the importance of sexual attraction in a romantic relationship. Countless times in my life, I’ve heard someone say something to the effect that looks fade or sex is not what a relationship is really about.
And of course, sexual attraction should not be the very foundation of your relationship because it is true that would be a shaky foundation without other elements such as trust and understanding. However, I see no harm or wrong in acknowledging how sexual desire and connection cements that foundation.
Sex is a very key part of a romantic relationship. I truly believe that to live a completely fulfilling life our sexuality cannot be denied or swept under the rug. It must be fully explored to be complete as human beings.
Additionally, most people seek a monogamous relationship in their sexual/romantic partners. And in this case, I don’t think it’s an option to have less-than-spectacular sexual attraction/connection with your partner in order to remain happy and satisfied over time. After all, when you are monogamous you are saying this will be the only other person in the whole entire world with whom you can explore your sexuality.
Therefore, I do believe that sexual attraction to your romantic partner is non-negotiable. Of course, this does not mean that your partner will be attractive in the most traditional sense but it is essential that they turn you on. I think people tend to dismiss the importance of sexual attraction and physical chemistry so they can rationalize settling with the person they’ve found so far and not wait for that person they fear won’t really come.
(But by settling, it hard to imagine that they themselves are truly experiencing just how amazing it can be to cum….Because, let’s be blunt, when you are physically attracted to someone that truly intensifies the entire sexual experience.)
I was browsing PostSecret and saw this postcard. And in my opinion, no one should feel anything less than this towards their romantic partner ….
Well, the oogling part. The penis part is negotiable.
However, this postcard did remind me of a very special someone (ok, it’s CCBB) that I have been fortunate enough to see in states of undress and that I feel this exact way toward - penis non-negotiable.
Author’s note: I *do* know looks change and that sometimes we are initially attracted to our partner but their physical body changes in a way we no longer are. I am not talking about such cases as that is a whole conversation unto itself.
Say Anything. “Alive with the Glory of Love.”….Is a Real Boy. Doghouse, 2004.
4 Comments
May 14, 2008 at 7:13 pm
Great site. It’s nice to see someone acknowledging the realities of human relationships.
Looks and sex don’t fade. The exception is misspelling your partner’s name on a birthday cake. You would be surprised how it can affect both.
-Askerson
May 14, 2008 at 8:24 pm
I’ve been lurking your blog for a while, really enjoy your perspective. I’ve had relationships who I was completely in love with, but not really fully attracted to sexually. Neither worked out, obviously. You’re right on in your views on the IMPORTANCE of sexual attraction!
May 19, 2008 at 8:27 pm
lol, that poster is a really good find!
June 1, 2008 at 4:36 am
Sexual attraction is a must,for most of the PPl,out there,for a few it does not matter,My experience
with some of the gf’s has been an adventure in
making out,with the “Turn the lights out,,, Routine”,(But A few Love Exposing them selves to any one)Many couples at first are affraid of
their self being exposed to the other,,the upside-
down prt of this; is one could get hurt in the process,Lights out ,,of the sexsual attraction bcomes an adventure in the bdrm,btween both of you. Most couples don’t have enough selfworth in
themselves,that they find other escape routs in life to face ‘One’s Image’,,,which in this prt is the Sexsual Attraction,,,,,
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